Friday, August 26, 2016

Let's Discuss...(8)

Let's Discuss...
Let's Discuss...is a new feature here on Lunar Rainbows Reviews, inspired by many of my fellow bloggers and their discussion posts.  For my posts, I'll be discussing random bookish and fandom topics.


Happy Friday all! I realized recently that it's been awhile since I did a discussion post so instead of a review for you today, I thought we'd have a chat.  Today I'm wondering:

Do you lend out books?

I used to lend out books all the time back when I was in school - I wanted to pass along the love I had for beloved books and at that age, some of my friends couldn't always afford to buy the books I raved about so lending seemed like an automatic to my younger, innocent self.

*take your pick of my glorious collection friends*

There's something you should know about me before we go on though. See, even as a kid I was very careful of my books. I wasn't careful with much - in fact, my room frequently looked like a tornado had hit it - but my books were always sorted properly and well taken care of. Even then, they were little treasures to me and anything that I value that much gets proper treatment.



As you've all probably guessed, eventually some issues arose with me lending out books. At that age, you don't realize that other people aren't all careful with their belongings - let alone other people's belongings. You would think that someone would take greater care when they have something that isn't theirs...but, you'd be wrong.  Oh so wrong. I got books back that with bent covers, stains and other signs of abuse marking them. *shudders*


A few friends even went so far as to never returned my beloved babies (the HORROR!) They then proceeded to make things worse by claiming that they had returned them...but where were the books then? WHERE?! Not on my meticulously organized shelves, that's for sure!


It was at that point that I made a new ruling to never, ever lend out my books again. Period. (With the exception of my mom who totally gets my obsessive attitude - and would also totally replace any book she'd damage by accident. Bless her.)  I don't care if you're a bookish friend, I don't care if you really, REALLY want to read one of my books, I don't even care if you promise to guard it with your life: YOU AIN'T GETTING THE PRECIOUS.


It might sound drastic, but us book lovers must sometimes go to extreme lengths to protect the precious.  I make up for it in other ways though, because I can't resist passing on bookish love  Like, say I end up with multiple copies of a book, I will donate to friends or to good will. I'll even gift out books I love to friends but I refuse to lend out my books anymore.



And that's that! So I want to know: do you lend out books?  Are your friends careful with them or do you also have some horror stories to share? Do you have rules in place for lending them out or are you just a generally nice (though possibly misguided) person? Also: were you nodding your head throughout my post or were you shocked at my drastic measures? I want to know!

*This post is linked up to the 2016 Book Blog Discussion Challenge.*

18 comments:

  1. Yeah I'm the same way with books- the preciousesses lol must be on their shelves and well cared for. None of this bending the covers back and shit. Or spilling on them (wtf??) So it can be risky to lend them out, and I learned the hard way too ha ha. And I have been known to buy multiple copies of a favorite book (have to have a reading copy, after all).

    Love that GIF "where are they" by the way. That made me laugh... :)

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    1. Hahahah EXACTLY^^ It's way too risky lending them out, they must be preserved at all cost! And the Batman gif was a must for this post - it just fit perfectly XD

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  2. Ugh, yes, I can totally relate. So many regrets from the past from friends who just totally ruined my books. Like seriously - r00d. Now I usually own lend books to my very best friend although even she has a tendency to return them in worse condition *sigh*.

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    1. Agreed! I'm still regretting one of my favorite childhood books that was a BIG book (a.k.a. expensive) and I never got it back. UGH! Even my best friend only gets gifts or donations, NO lending of my copies >.>

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  3. SO MUCH YES. I NEVER lend books out. The only people I allow to borrow my books are my aunt (who is the one who fostered my love of reading growing up) and my boyfriend (who knows my obsessive book handling rules and also happens to live with me). I know both of them take good care of their books, so I don't have to worry about them. Growing up I can't tell you how many times I was put in that awkward situation where someone would see my shelves and ask to borrow a book and I had to be ~that person~ and say no, even to my close friends! I'm sure I seemed mean, but I would never ask to borrow a book from someone else, so it was hard for me to wrap my mind around other people being so bold as to ask to use me as a library.

    Anyways, sorry for the rant but I 1000% agree with you!!!

    -Cristina @ Girl in the Pages

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    1. Your aunt sounds like my mom and that's exactly why my mom gets a pass! My boyfriend doesn't read much and he's already bent a few spines by accident so I'm glad otherwise I'd be on his ass to be careful all the time O.O

      I was too nice growing up but now I'm in that awkward situation every time someone asks to borrow books.I totally get your rant though and I'm glad I'm not the only one :)

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  4. I am pretty much the same except that I've had to learn to relax a little bit because of my kids. I have instilled in them the idea that books should be kept pristine, but let's face it, they're kids. Inevitably a book ends up on a floor somewhere where it gets stepped on or creased or ... any number of tragic things. At first, I had a REALLY hard time with giving them one of my books, but I want them to read - and that instinct won out. I only flinch a little when I give them a book now. :-)

    Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

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    1. I can understand that^^ I was ridiculously careful with my mom's books growing up but I get that I was an exception. I think I'd still refuse to loan certain special books and just buy them their own copies....or replace my own once they'd read them LOL!

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  5. I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from! After lending out a few books and never having them returned as well as having a rather expensive college textbook returned stained through with apple juice (I can STILL conjure the horrible smell in my mind) with zero remorse for what had happened, I don't lend out books anymore. To anyone. Under any circumstances. Same here, I'll just gift a book if I know someone really wants to read it because there's no way my babies are leaving my house, LOL!

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    1. UGH! The nerve of some people D: We might have learned the hard way but at least we learned. Our precious books will never again be mistreated by careless individuals LOL!

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  6. I'm stricter with lending out books after horrible experiences with high school classmates. This was almost 3 years but still. Now i mostly lend out to my fellow history major uni friends. I'm still nervous that i won't them back or in a poor state. I'm also stricter because book-prices have gone up in Suriname

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    1. Same here and it was much longer ago for me so I completely understand you :) Textbooks are super expensive so I don't remember lending out very many - expect to careful friends. I think my personal reading for pleasure collection is all the more sacred though LOL!

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  7. I am with you on this... I dont lend out my books... the exception being my sister who understands and one friend who also understands and has proven herself trustworthy lol. I have just been burned too many times before so the books are mine. If I really want to share the love of a certain book I will buy an extra copy and deem it the "lending version". That way if it gets hurt I have a nice pretty copy on my shelf still. A bit crazy yes, but my books are all kept nice and neat and I can 't have people ruining that especially because most people dont take care of books the way us book lovers do.

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    1. Exactly! With a few exceptions people just aren't as careful with our books as we would be so it's not worth the risk! I like the idea of having a ''lending version'' too - I might just started doing that myself :)

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  8. Haha! I get really cranky about turned down corners as well. I lent an ENTIRE SERIES to my cousin and she swore she returned them, but I sure don't have them anywhere. I also have loaned out the last two Harry Potter books only to go buy them again because I didn't get them back quickly enough so now I have two copies of those LOL. I only have one best friend that is similar to your mom. If she hurt my book, she would fix it or buy me another one and she always returns them. Everyone else is on their own from here on out.

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    1. Same here^^ I know, isn't that crazy - they say they return them but if WE don't have them, WHERE are they?! Hello! LOL! I have extra Potter sets too but I gifted my extras to my best friend (they were paperback anyway haha!)

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  9. I still lend out my books. :) I write down who gets what and then I can badger people to return them. I haven't had any horror stories yet, so this might be the reason why I'm so relaxed about it, but yeah.

    I would definitely blacklist a person if I ever got back a book in a less than pristine condition, though. If you borrow someone's clothes, you don't bring them back stained and torn, either - or a banged up car, or whatever. So I don't see why books would be any different! :)

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    1. Ahh you're a nicer person than I am ;) I agree though^^ the lack of horror stories is probably why it's easier for you to keep lending out your babies!

      EXACTLY. I don't get why people would be careless with books - you wouldn't crash someone's car or burn down their house. So you should offer the same respect to books LOL!

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